Tomorrow, June 14th, is Flag Day. I really didn’t pay too much attention to this date, shame on me, until I decided to use that date 22 years ago to get married. Now I can’t forget Flag Day.
So along with proudly displaying flags in our yard, we also celebrate this amazing journey called marriage that God has blessed us with. There have been days that the Marriage Flag looked as if it would be blown right off of the pole, because of wind storms that had come, but it still flies. Some days there wasn’t even a little breeze, so you couldn’t see the full display of the flag, but you saw enough to know it was there. But most days, the flag flies proudly to say, marriage rocks!
Thanks Karl for 22 awesome years and looking forward to so many more of proudly waving the banner for an Unashamed Marriage.
Men love curves. Want proof? Just give a man an agile sports car and a curvy mountain road and it will look like one of those Geico commercials.
So the nicest thing my husband texted to me today: Your smile is the sexiest curve on your body.
I think God knew what He was doing when He created and blessed marriage.
What kind of married man doesn’t even notice when another woman is attempting to flirt with him?
A man that is married to a woman that is also his lover.
At a doctor’s office I worked at once, a Mr. ?? came in one day and behaved quite badly. I ignored him. I changed the subject and I was going to ask the doctor to get rid of him. After Mr. ?? left, I asked why he behaved so badly. They assured me at the office that he was married. The next words out of my mouth: well then Mrs. ?? needs to do a better job at home.
Ladies, when a man is thrilled about what he has at home, there is no need to stray.
Yesterday I was sitting in a doctor’s office signing my life away, again. I had started an experimental study for Crohn’s Disease, but I had to be taken off due to an infection. So yesterday we went through the process again and I had to sign papers all over again.
The specialist I see has to ask questions about where I am at and how I feel. Obviously if I’m feeling great and have no symptoms, they want someone else for the study. She asked about mouth ulcers, known to happen in Crohn’s patients and very common to me. I admitted I had a few recently. Then came the exam.
She listened with her stethoscope, examined my eyes and finally looked inside my mouth. “Oh, I can see where you had one on your tongue and it is healing.” After the exam was over and we were on our way to get some healthy lunch, by the way Jason’s Deli offers a variety of healthy options, Karl apologized, even though it wasn’t his fault.
“I didn’t know you were struggling with mouth ulcers. I’m sorry I keep trying to kiss you right now.” What was wrong with my voice? Why didn’t I just admit that I was in pain in my mouth and just didn’t care to be kissed right then? It wasn’t his fault, it was mine for not speaking up. Even though we’ve been married for more than 20 years, sometimes I still don’t want to admit when the Crohn’s Disease has done one of its things to me and I just don’t want to be kissed right now. It’s a part of my life. I need to quit pretending that it doesn’t happen and just be open and honest with the one man who won’t laugh or shame me for what I’m going through. Lesson learned, I hope.
Presenting marriage seminars is amazing. What a blessing! To see and hear of lives impacted and knowing these couples will never be the same, wow! What a privilege.
We managed to include a marriage seminar during our stay with family for the holidays – not for the faint of heart. At each seminar, we give away some t-shirts that help the couples remember some basic nuts and bolts things of understanding each other. Believe it or not, we need to be reminded at times that men and women are different in how we think and act. We play a game to see which guy gets the t-shirt.
We ask elimination questions until there is only one guy left standing. One of the questions was: did you go to the store for your wife this week? I noticed the man in the wheelchair, but I didn’t think about the question we just asked until his wife blurted out, “He can’t!”
Karl and I looked down the list of remaining questions and realized a lot of them would exclude someone with limited abilities in a wheelchair. We skipped a lot of questions and tried to be inclusive as much as possible. What if that woman hadn’t spoken up? I’m determined to take the time to notice obvious disabilities (not all can be seen) in the future and alter the game we were given to include everyone.
What if that devoted wife hadn’t spoken up? What if you and I don’t speak up? Find your voice and look around for those who may have lost theirs.
We did one of our “Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage” seminars this weekend. Love seeing couples laugh and nod their heads – oh yes that’s right- as they listen to the practical marriage building truths packaged in humor and common sense.
One man took it to a new level. He laughed and stomped a foot. He loved it! If you’re happy & you know it stomp your feet!!
Take time to openly express joy and laughter. It feels great!!!
Today I am counting my blessings.
Three children, all from the same father.
A son who turned 17 and has always known a two parent family and will take this with him into his future.
An opportunity to share with others that an incredible marriage is possible and it is fun!
I am truly blessed. Thanks, many thanks, God.
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