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Three Crazy Things That Happen When She Becomes the Initiator

My husband and I do marriage seminars, in a few flavors to meet the needs of the local audience. But no matter what style of seminar we are presenting, the facts are the same. In general men initiate sex more than women. Men everywhere are having a moment of silence for this sad fact. In general, women will be shocked that it even matters. At the end of the day, it may not matter much as long as sex happens. On the other hand, most men get a thrill out of being the one pursued once in a while. It’s not without danger and risk though. Some crazy things can happen when women initiate sex.

1. She often becomes a dictator. When a woman initiates intimacy, she sort of skips that gentle flirtation mode and goes straight for the “we’re doing it right here and right now” mode. It’s a good thing that this is usually a turn on for men, after they catch their breath from being surprised.

2. She stands her ground. Sometimes a couple will agree to an intimate encounter out in the beauties of nature, but women generally crave security and privacy. This means she will decide where she feels safe and she won’t budge. If she decides a nice soft spot in between some trees is perfect, she may not be seeing your view – looking over the cliff’s edge. But she’s going to stand her ground for this safe place for her and you’ll never forget it.

3. Her “rules” don’t apply. Basically, she exercises the right to redefine previously set sexual boundaries when she is the initiator. Perhaps he has been wanting to try a new position, but she won’t budge until the day she takes over and initiates. Then she decides it’s worth a try. At this point, guys can get frustrated that the rules don’t apply to her, or be grateful that it happened. The good news is that sometimes after she rewrites the rules for herself, she’ll sometimes rewrite them for him as well.

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Today is a family day since the kids are off for thanksgiving. Day in Nature is our goal.

It took us almost two hours to get five of us out the door. Makes me wonder, are we so far removed from nature and the way God placed us in a garden that it is difficult to prepare for simplicity and refreshment again?

Wilderness Man will be happy today. Perhaps he will someday raise his own children to be closer to nature.

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Wilderness Man

I sent my son to his very first Pathfinder campout this weekend. His older brother is going along too, so it is understood that he will keep an eye out on the little guy. I know Matthew is going to have more fun than he can possibly communicate, which is scary because this boy can talk!

I took the time to look up “A Shelter in the Storm” the theme of this campout, and see what all activities Matthew could sign up for. I printed out a copy for him and had him grab the highlighter. We went through the list and there was a theme: wilderness man. Matthew is going to take classes on edible plants, firebuilding without matches, cooking without utensils, orienteering, stars and seeds. He says the stars will help him know where he is at and the seeds will also help him know more of what is good and not good to eat out in the wild.

It is very possible that we will be unable to live with the child after his return until he has had a chance to prove himself. There is a church campout the following weekend. I have a feeling he will be using his new skills there, proudly showing mom and dad he is, very much so, a wilderness man. Who knows what God has planned for such a boy, but I shall encourage him and love seeing how this desire in his heart shapes his life. There is just nothing to compare with the joys of parenting.

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