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Seven Disgusting Things about Moving

I’ve been unconnected! That’s what moving will do for you. Now that the settling in to my new domicile is beginning to take shape, time to get back to work! In this entire process, I didn’t find a single person who said they love moving. It seems to be a universal necessary evil. So here you have it folks. Seven disgusting things about moving!

1. Two times the work. Anyone who has ever moved knows this is true. Most moves don’t happen overnight, especially for a family of five like ours. Just because you turn in your two week notice doesn’t mean that you can slip into coasting mode. It doesn’t work that way. It would be lovely if you could wait until the last day of your current job before tackling paperwork for the Human Resources department of your new job, but again, it doesn’t work that way folks. Everybody wants a piece of you.

2. Packing in General. Really folks, where do you start? Unless you work for a place that will hire people to come in and pack your stuff and load it onto the truck for you, packing is a never ending nightmare! No matter how organized you are in your plan for packing (I had a four-phase plan on a spreadsheet), something will come up. See number one.

3. The house hunt! This is time consuming and frustrating. Again, refer to number one. You can’t house hunt at your new potential community for three months before informing your current employer you are resigning. They will eventually get suspicious of all the frequent trips out of state. This means most of us get stuck in a very short time frame of when we have to be out of our old house and into our new home. Some companies will pay for a few weeks in a hotel, but unless you go ahead and leave your family behind until you find a home, the hunt is a lot of work in a very short amount of time.

4. Boxes. Just what we need, pieces of cardboard everywhere to make us sneeze! Homes being packed start to smell like warehouses. It used to be that local stores were more than happy to get rid of their boxes to folks who were moving. As companies have become “greener” as well as leaner, we see more stores breaking down their boxes immediately and even recycling them. Have no fear, your local home improvement stores and even discount stores now sell moving boxes. That’s right, you have to pay for this torture! Then there are those, like my husband, who saves most original boxes for things we purchase. Up to the attic we go to get the boxes that still have the original packing material in them for everything from our large screen TV to an inexpensive set of champagne glasses. At some point, you have to wonder if those boxes smell too old and look too damaged to safely get your valuable possessions to their new location.

5. Change. Of course there is going to be change, it’s a move, right? You expect change. If you’ve had an opportunity to do a little bit of research ahead of time, you may have a good idea of what changes are coming your way. You poor deluded fool. You have no idea how many changes you’ll face. There is no way to be prepared for all of them!

6. Getting Reconnected. On this end, your phone provider tells you just transfer your service when you arrive at your new location. Upon arrival, you learn that your phone and DSL provider in your previous location can only offer dial up service in your new location. Dial up service? Seriously? It’s a great day when the lights are on, the electric is on, the internet is hooked up and life is good again.

7. Money Matters. Moving is expensive. It’s a pain. Maybe you’ll be lucky enough to have a nationwide bank that will be happy to issue you new checks with your new local address. But if you are moving to somewhere other than Dallas, New York City or Chicago, chances are you have to find a new bank. Each bank has its own rules, like a nine day holding on all new accounts. Then there is all that last minute stuff you just threw out, telling yourself you would buy new ones later. Of course the new house has things the old house didn’t and these have to be added in to the budget. Personally, I’ll take that extra cost for additional bathroom supplies. It’s worth it to have another bathroom in the house!

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The Four Piles for the Prospective College Student

Denial.

I think the first phase of grieving my oldest son’s leaving the house for college is beginning with denial. I’m way too young to have a child leaving for college, or at least I’d like to think so.

In the process of helping Michael clean his room (which he shares with his younger brother) and sort out what’s what, we had to come to an understanding. I told Michael there were four piles for his stuff and he needed to made decisions and put things in the right pile, and these piles have different sizes as well. They are as follows.

Largest pile – toss that junk!

Next largest pile – pass down to younger siblings or donate to charity

Medium pile – stuff he’s actually taking with him to college

The smallest, tiniest, almost microscopic pile – things he’d like us to store for him while he’s getting his first degree

Of course when I was telling Michael the parameters of the piles, I made sure that he realized the last pile was only out of the goodness of our hearts and he needed to be extremely grateful. I know he’s going to miss my sense of humor when he’s gone.

As we gradually filled up one bin of stuff he’d like to keep forever, just not take with him to college, I saw once again the importance of memories, milestones, and souvenirs. I also saw how personal they are and the sentiment attached to these things are only understood by the rightful owner. You can pass down a favorite old toy, but you can’t always pass down the sentiment as to why that faded, beat up old thing is so special to you.

Things that stood out: DVD’s and t’shirts from his class at church, notes from his sister (they really do love each other!), and a page that represented the most awesome semester of history class he ever experienced. It was very interesting that some of these precious things were buried under a layer of clutter and multiplying dust bunnies. Thanks son, for teaching me that there are great things to hang on to in life and I need to get rid of the junk that’s covering them up. I wouldn’t have traded helping you clean out your room for anything, because I needed to go through this journey along with you. It would be expected for me to say that the experience will soften the blow of losing you around the house each day. But can anything really make this transition more bearable?

One late night, when my eyes are puffy and red from crying from missing my firstborn so much, I’ll probably sneak into the space we’ve allocated for his keep forever box, open it up and spend a few moments with things that are treasured by the one who took a piece of my heart with him.

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