When we try to change someone’s mind about a particular issue or topic, I’ve noticed that it is called the art of persuasion and not the listing of their stand’s atrocities. I was reminded again recently, buy reading some inspirational quotes, that we gain more adherents by showing something better, than by telling them how bad their ways are.
It is denunciation or desire. It works in many areas of life from community grass roots movements, parenting and other personal relationships to areas of study, philosophy and religion. We still gain more adherents by creating a desire for what we are advocating instead of beating down their position. I see this in my children on a regular basis. When my children come up with ideas for their school projects, they need guidance. They need to be led to desire to make their project the best it can be with great effort, planning and staying focused. They don’t respond well if I start by saying that their idea for their project is stupid and won’t amount to anything.
What are you passionate about? What would you like to convince the world of? Aim to create desire in folks, desire for something better, instead of denouncing what they currently embrace. In denunciation, all we end up doing is bringing up defenses. Share joy. Share the beauty of what you are passionate about. Share what attracted you to it. Aim for desire over denunciation.
My husband was sharing one of the latest “aha moments” he has had based on a podcast by Michael Hyatt. He started referring to words from the blog – “This is your life…” I of course have heard it many times and was able to finish it. “Are you who you want to be?”
It really is a simple melody and not that difficult to grasp, which is a good thing. Because it keeps the message easily in your mind. “This is your life. Are you who you want to be?” Well, are you?
Well, actually Sharon, I’d rather be 30 pounds lighter. Then what are you going to do about it? Someone might say they want to spend more time with their kids. Sounds great, but when are you going to make it a priority instead of just a distant vision?
Start today. Change one of your “someday I want to” dreams into a “today I will” reality. Is it a bigger project? Great! Start scheduling the various phases of that project today. Put it on your calendar today. Make time for it today. Go to Michael Hyatt’s blog and listen to the melody on his podcasts a few times. Get it stuck in your brain and then make your life what you want it to be!
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So I started this blog for the purpose of encouraging myself and others to be intentional about relating to life. I hope (with the occasional artistic license) that is what you have seen here.
Sometimes, however, we need things spelled out for us in a very practical manner. So exactly how does one become intentional about relating to life? Let’s look at the three main words: intentional, relating and life. If we look at it backwards and describe it, we might describe life as active moving essence. We could describe relating as understanding how something applies to us or seeing our connection to something. Intentional of course meaning purposefully, meaning to, choosing to do it without hesitation.
So, how has it been for you lately? Have you been seeing your connection to active moving essence and choosing to do so without hesitation? Have you been understanding your marriage more, purposefully? Have you been relating to your kids more – meaning to do so? Don’t leave anything out. To get the most out of life, we need to be intentional about every aspect. Don’t hold anything back. Live life fully, purposefully and without hesitation!