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To Stand or Not to Stand

Injustice.

This word doesn’t appear without being noticed. It seems to be one of the popular phrases of the day. Some are moved to right it. Others are moved to disgust that everything seems to be called an injustice today. I saw a different side of injustice this past week. It has changed how I view things.

I stood up for someone. It meant damaging one relationship to help the other. It wasn’t easy to do. Was it the right thing to do? In debriefing over the incident, I realized that in my demanding someone show respect for someone else, which they ought to do for a variety of reasons; I was the only one doing so. The belittled woman didn’t even stand up for herself!

That’s when it hit me. This wasn’t about injustice. This was about choice. One woman chose to disrespect another. But the 2nd woman didn’t respect herself enough to stand up on her own and decry the abuse! She chose to stay in that environment and do nothing about it.

I still need to learn so much about how to right wrongs and how to prevent injustice, but what I learned in this incident has left a huge impact. Before I can come in and undo an injustice, I must first coach the person being abused to see that they have a choice to make. They have to start standing up themselves.

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T

“Sock it to me,” from Aretha Franklin’s classic rendition of R-E-S-P-E-C-T has new meaning for me as it will now be permanently linked with – laundry.

I love church youth groups! I especially love church youth groups that aim to grow character and teach responsibility. Matthew had an opportunity to earn a Pathfinder honor recently and it was in – laundering. To receive this honor, he had to be responsible for the entire family’s laundry for one full week. Sorting, washing, drying, folding. The whole works! Thankfully, he chose a week where I was very busy with VBS, so it was most helpful to have him in charge of the mountain of clothes.

“I have so much more respect for you now mommy.” Thank you. I’m hoping he remembers that aura of respect the next time he eyes his neatly folded stack of laundry that mom did for him. If not, he may be forced to slave over folding and mating the socks forever. No R-E-S-P-E-C-T, then you will be stuck on sock duty. Sock it to you! Matthew admitted folding was what he hated the most. He says he will help more with laundry in the future, but first he wants to not have to see it for a while. Can’t blame the poor kid.

So now I’m a firm believer in every church having a Pathfinder youth group that encourages kids to get their laundering honor. Love it!

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