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Cookies and Juice

We agreed to conduct one of our marriage seminars this past weekend, even though it was our anniversary. It was the only weekend the church had available. We stayed in the home of the associate pastor and his family and did our presentations. After the first night, we returned to our room to find a special treat in our room – and one of the pastor’s little boys anxiously awaiting to see if we liked it or not.

It was a simple homemade card that said happy anniversary and a plate of lemon cookies along with two glasses of delicious apple juice. Did I mention that lemon cookies are one of my all time favorites? After the seminar, we pass out evaluations for couples to write down what they learned and how much they enjoyed the presentations. One couple wrote down that they have hope and see a light at the end of the tunnel.

It wasn’t our first choice to do a seminar on our anniversary weekend, but a plate of lemon cookies and a child’s happy face as well as a couple’s renewed hope in their marriage certainly make it worth it!!

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He Can’t!

Presenting marriage seminars is amazing. What a blessing! To see and hear of lives impacted and knowing these couples will never be the same, wow! What a privilege.

We managed to include a marriage seminar during our stay with family for the holidays – not for the faint of heart. At each seminar, we give away some t-shirts that help the couples remember some basic nuts and bolts things of understanding each other. Believe it or not, we need to be reminded at times that men and women are different in how we think and act. We play a game to see which guy gets the t-shirt.

We ask elimination questions until there is only one guy left standing. One of the questions was: did you go to the store for your wife this week? I noticed the man in the wheelchair, but I didn’t think about the question we just asked until his wife blurted out, “He can’t!”

Karl and I looked down the list of remaining questions and realized a lot of them would exclude someone with limited abilities in a wheelchair. We skipped a lot of questions and tried to be inclusive as much as possible. What if that woman hadn’t spoken up? I’m determined to take the time to notice obvious disabilities (not all can be seen) in the future and alter the game we were given to include everyone.

What if that devoted wife hadn’t spoken up? What if you and I don’t speak up? Find your voice and look around for those who may have lost theirs.

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