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Scrapped Rights and Duties

Everyone wears a seat belt. That was the rule laid out by mom and dad. When my sister and I were driving the family car, everyone riding with us had to wear their seat belt. Failure to follow this rule would result in loss of driving privileges. Pretty simple and straightforward.

A lot of life and living took place between my young driving days and my oldest son turning 16 years old. Let’s get Michael his driver’s license! Rite of passage just like I went through at that age. But it wasn’t that easy in the great state of Texas for a 16 year old to get a driver’s license. I had visions of Michael driving himself and his two younger siblings to school each day. That would take a load off of Karl and I. We were looking forward to it. But someone told us that wouldn’t work and we looked into the rules about driving in Texas. Things had changed a lot since I was sweet 16 and driving the family car!

Somewhere between my parents and their rules and my son being of age for a driver’s license; there were a whole lot of parents that began scrapping their parental rights and duties. Instead of being their child’s parent, they gave in to the popular notion of the time (that is still floating around out there) that their primary objective was to be their child’s best friend. Really? So if your parent is your best friend, who do you go to when you need a parent? Look no further, big brother is standing by.

This is how it works. Parents put restrictions on their offspring when new privileges are granted. As the young person proves trustworthy, the restrictions are gradually lifted. Parents have been parents. Young people have learned trust and accountability and the roads are safer. When parents quit parenting, the government steps in. It may be local, state or even federal, but when parents stop parenting someone has to be come the parent. So now the state of Texas is the parent for all young drivers. There is no way to determine if they have been trustworthy or not, so specific ages are set down. Regardless of how wonderful your little darling is, the law has specific restrictions and limitations until they reach a certain age. It’s what happens when you govern the masses.

It was so much easier and more gratifying when parents held those duties and responsibilities. It was intimate, something you achieved under the watchful eyes, cheering and support of those closest to you. Now it’s a number in line and the same rule applies to all universally – no matter how safe of a driver you are.

Will parents ever take back their rights and duties? I’m hoping so.

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10 Weeks

So I’ve embarked on this new 10 week program called Creation Health. It talks about your whole health by looking at C R E A T I O N, Choice, Rest, Environment, Activity, Trust, Interpersonal Relationships, Outlook and Nutrition. It is going to be an interesting journey.

One of the beautiful or scary, depending on how you look at it, aspects of Creation Health is the personal evaluation. We take a short quiz to assess where we are at now and then again at the end of the 10 weeks. Why? To see if we’ve managed to learn anything and more importantly – apply it to our lives. Why? Because they want to know they’ve made a difference in offering this program to us.

Think about it for a moment. Isn’t this true for all of life? It can’t just be something we’ve learned, but something we’ve put into practice. What if everything we did had a before and after evaluation so we could see if it was really making a difference or not? Ten weeks on the Parent Teacher Organization, Defensive Driving Class, Fill in the blank Disease Awareness (I can recommend two if you don’t know any: ADEM and Crohn’s Disease). At the end, are we any better off than when we began? Did we take the time to put it into practice instead of merely learning it?

Ten weeks. I’m going to see what happens. God help me put what I’m learning into practice! If you’d like to know more about the program yourself, visit http://www.creationhealth.tv.

 

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Where you put it

“It’s my fault. Again.” “It’s always me, I’m the one that always messes everything up.” “I’m so worthless and not good for anything.”

Do you know someone who talks like this? Have you said similar things yourself? Yes, we all make mistakes and sometimes we even repeat them. Unfortunately, beating ourselves up doesn’t rectify any of it.

I like this quote from St. Augustine:

Beware of despairing about yourself. You are commanded to put your trust in God, and not in yourself.

When I think I’m doing things in my own strength (as if I had any), I’m liable to get less than the desired results. The fact of the matter is that every breath I take is a gift from God. Every talent I have is on loan from Him. Every skill I’ve improved is because of the attitude and character He is growing in me. When we do things in God’s strength, our trust is in Him, not in ourselves. We can stop beating ourselves up. God has a pretty good track record.

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