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In All Fairness?

I rather like being a clear cut it is either right or wrong kind of person. The cop out answer of “It’s complicated,” more often than not is an excuse to do what you want to do anyway because you’ve spent some time rationalizing it.

Yet as a mother of three children, with different personalities and ways of doing things, it’s not always easy to show them that I’m being clear cut with the principle of the issue. Perhaps it is because they, as children, appear to us adults to be always on the lookout for any amount of unfairness. It is as if they go to special training to hunt out any possibility that their brother or sister may have gotten away with something that they did not.

My son got out some roast leftovers (which I managed to incorporate into breakfast this morning) for lunch and I told him no, because we were going to use some of it again at supper time. My daughter pulled out a biscuit from this morning and he was upset that she was getting away with it. I gently reminded him that biscuits weren’t on the menu for tonight, but the leftover roast had appeared at breakfast this morning and would again at super tonight so he didn’t need it at lunch as well.

I look at how some adults, as individuals, corporations and even nations interact with each other and it seems to me that many of them never outgrew that childish phase of hunting for ways where they were being treated unfairly. I wonder what would happen if they spent the same amount of time volunteering and making a difference in their community?

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Something Great

My youngest son was looking forward to joining “Pathfinders,” a fantastic youth group at our church. They have strict rules about when they take in new pathfinders – once a year and you have to be a particular age and in a particular grade in school. Matthew just missed out. His birthday was a couple months after the deadline date.

That’s so unfair! I’m sure many would cry out for the leaders to have some compassion. But don’t miss this: when Matthew was the right age (and also the right grade), it meant something to him to finally be a pathfinder. He had to wait for it. It wasn’t just anything. He anticipated it.

What has the world of instant gratification done to us that we can’t encourage young people to wait for something great? Better yet, why can’t we encourage young people (folks of all ages actually) to strive for something even thought it might be difficult or challenging to reach the goal?

I saw a movie recently that had one quote in it that I can’t get out of my mind. It’s from the movie, “Listen to Your Heart.”

I’m not going to miss out on something that could be great just cause it might also be hard.

Matthew waited to be a pathfinder, and this youth group asks a lot of him, but it means something to be a pathfinder and he is willing to push himself because he sees that it is something great!

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