My husband and I grew up in a generation where we were told what to do and what not to do, often without any reason or explanation as to why. While our great grandparents prided themselves in obedient children who just did what they were told, somehow our society has created in us the need to know why.
So as we discuss life choices with all of our children, and especially the teenager, we remember to throw in the “why’s” of the reasoning behind our positions. It’s not because we are bad parents and haven’t trained our children to obey without question. It is instead making sure our children know enough to have a reason to take that position for themselves in the future when they are on their own.
One of the latest issues discussed – public dancing. I’ve seen some very beautiful folk dances over the years, including ones with particular songs that taught life lessons. I’ve also seen what dancing with “bumping and grinding” can do to a friend of mine back when we were teenagers. We’ve told Michael, dancing today is so sensual and skin contact creates a lot of things that often aren’t supposed to be there. A husband and wife swaying to some music in the privacy of their own home – that’s their deal. Good for them. I don’t need to see it in public please and i certainly don’t need to see people not married to each other doing it.
So this article appears and I share it with my son. Yes, there are reasons why we don’t show off tons of flesh and press skin against skin when it’s not with the person we are married to. It leads to many problems, of which the producers of Dancing With the Stars have to spend money fixing after every season. Here’s more. http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/10/22/bumping-and-grinding-on-dwts-leads-to-off-screen-hookups-between-dancers-stars/